Snow fell again this week. The wind drove drifts across the
driveway and formed sheets of ice across the patio. For weeks I have felt
frozen in place, waiting for a gentle thawing to release me to move again.
While I wait, I have considered how often feeling stuck takes over our
experiences, and I have been exploring the strategies that help us escape the
clutches of stuckness.
This video for a TED talk by Dr. Lani Nelson Zlupko describes a few ways we can get out of a stuck state of being and back on the road again.
Turn. Instead of focusing on the problem that keeps you in
place, turn to look in the direction of your goal. Name what you want and focus
on that instead of the circumstances that are holding you back.
Learn. View bumps in the road as opportunities to learn, and
recognize that even large bumps can be overcome and lead to future growth.
Persist. Keep trying until you achieve your goal. With each
step along the path, you will grow closer to being the person you were meant to
This winter I will be working to focus on the spring sun and
leave the bitter cold behind. I pray your road leads you to a bright new season
How do you get out of a stuck situation? How do you turn to
focus on the path that lies ahead?
"Permanence, perseverance, and persistence in spite of all obstacles, discouragements, and impossibilities; it is this, that in all things, distinguishes the strong soul from the weak." ~~ Thomas Carlyle
Every New Year celebration means I’ve grown another year
older and wiser. Here are a few thoughts I wish I could share with my younger
Everything is going to be okay. No situation lasts forever,
and many problems resolve themselves in time. Life does get better.
You deserve good things. No one deserves bad treatment, and
you don’t have to tolerate abuse. Believe you should receive better and expect
more from your life.
Trust your gut. When you feel uncomfortable or uneasy about
a person or a situation, God is telling you to be careful. Listen to your spirit
and know God is speaking to your heart.
When it’s time to go, move on. Too often we waste time
clinging to roles or relationships that no longer serve our spirits or
contribute to our growth. When you feel you’ve outgrown a station or a season, God
may be prompting you to make a change and begin a new path.
Everyone has their own problems. In our current culture, we often
see only the surface of others’ lives, and everyone seems to be having more fun
than we are. The truth is that everyone has experienced pain, and everyone
needs compassion and understanding for whatever they are going through.
Never “go along to get along.” Too many of us were taught to
compromise our hearts and sacrifice our values in order to make others happy.
If you are grimly tolerating a situation you know is wrong, either work to
change it or accept it is not the right place for you.
Good relationships are built. The best relationships, friendships,
and marriages don’t just happen. They require investments of commitment, work, time,
and effort to make them successful.
Each person is responsible for his or her choices. We can’t
blame others for our mistakes or bad behavior. We choose our actions and the people
we want to become.
Reconsider your spending. All the material possessions we buy
can’t really bring happiness. All the clothes,
shoes, jewelry, and books we purchase eventually became outgrown or outdated
and get thrown away. Think carefully about how you spend your resources.
Invest in experience. The real reward of life is meaningful
time shared with people who care. Don’t waste your time and money on things or
people that don’t bring joy and value to your life. Focus on the positive and
share your experience with people who strengthen and encourage you.
This New Year, I’m looking forward to a time of phenomenal
productivity and change. I’m continuing to learn every day, and I’m excited
about the lessons that wait in the days ahead.
What advice would you give a younger you? What are you
looking forward to learning in 2019?